So I should probably note, in reference to the last post....

[brooksmoses]

I should probably note that it was 2am when I was writing it, and it's a rather biased view of how my life has been going. It was just a fair number of things that were piling up all at once, in a way that some of them caused others to pile up, and back and forth.



And my work has been going really well lately, and I'd like to spend a bit more time focusing on it (yes, if I were to be on my hypothetical deathbed tomorrow, I would regret not having spent more time working, why do you ask?), but other relationships are going into phases of needing more than the usual amount of time, and so it sometimes feels that no matter how I distribute my time, I'm shortchanging at least one and probably two of the three (counting work as one of them).

I ponder at clairaide's recent post about having lots more people in her life, but also feeling less time-stressed, and wonder if there's something that I should learn in there. I'm not completely sure what -- it's not that I should take any of what I've got and turn it into the sort of "once every couple of months on a whim" thing that she's talking about with some people -- that wouldn't go well with my advisor if I did it with my schoolwork! It might be that, in some ways, having more people in one's life can create an impression of having more time, if it's occasional but adds to one's sense of time well spent. It just might be that I need to figure out how to make some things work in ways that aren't somewhat broken in the ways that they're broken, so that they don't feel like they're demanding all the possibly-available time.

I dunno. Is a ponder, and one that I shall ponder at for a while. And occasionally need to whine at the universe about, I'm sure. But I think it might get somewhere useful, too.

- Brooks, also pondering that it could simply mean that I need to spend more time with clairaide so that her mellowness will rub off on me more; I already know it tends to. *grin*

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[rosefox]

It might be that, in some ways, having more people in one's life can create an impression of having more time, if it's occasional but adds to one's sense of time well spent. It just might be that I need to figure out how to make some things work in ways that aren't somewhat broken in the ways that they're broken, so that they don't feel like they're demanding all the possibly-available time.

The "time well spent" thing is really what's important. I feel like I've determined what my priorities are, without duress, and that I'm really happy with them. Instead of an either/or situation, where some time is reserved only for work and other time is reserved only for play, I've got more like a ranking system, and that works much better for me. I decided to make my schoolwork more of a priority than socializing during the week (barring someone really needing me), and I also decided that weekends are sweetie-time and friend-time rather than homework time (barring big projects). That split seems to give me enough time and focus for my schoolwork and enough time and focus for my relationships, and there's plenty of flexibility to permit for situations that I decide I need to make adjustments for. Because I feel so much in control, every minute is time well spent because I've decided that it's the right way for me to be spending it. It's a very nice harmonizing of my head and my heart. Took me a while to learn *grin* but it works really well for me.

- Brooks, also pondering that it could simply mean that I need to spend more time with clairaide so that her mellowness will rub off on me more; I already know it tends to. *grin*

Awwwww! That's not something anyone's ever said about me! Thank you! *big pleased grin*